The Four Man Plan Mantris, Explained

The central object that 4MP'rs (four man planners) use to keep track of the "game" they're playing is called a Mantris.

What Is A "Mantris"?

Basically, it's a square graph divided into 16 equal sections, and the "rules" about how to fill out the spots in the graph are explained in the book.

Players are filling the spots on the graph with ... people. Men, called "Plan Men", who are in this player's "dating vortex" at the time. There are specific rules about how to add men to the Mantris, and how to remove them from the mantris, and the rules are in place to help circumvent some of the regular problems we women create for ourselves when trying to find a life partner.

Things like, making a decision on the value of a person based upon the shape of their nose, or the color of their hair (or lack of it), or what services they have chosen to provide to the world in order to sustain their basic physical needs of food, shelter and clothing.

Players are encouraged to fill up their mantris completely, and keep it as filled as possible while using the ruleset provided by the author, Cindy Lu.

Isn't This Using People?

Yes, and no.

Single people seeking a mutually fulfilling long term relationship need to be very honest with themselves about what they view a fulfilling relationship to be, and once they've been honest with themselves, they need to go out into the world and explore to seek people who are on the same wavelength (or at least a nearby vibration).

It's quite likely that the initial people that are attracted to being with this single person aren't really going to be on the same wavelength, deep down. On the surface it will seem that they are, but with further examination, it's found that the long term vibrations and wavelengths don't match. In being responsible to themselves, every single person needs to acknowledge this for themselves and therefore not feel badly at the interest of looking around - without getting hugely involved immediately - to find that person whose long-term wavelength is harmonious.

Of course, that's not to say that people and relationships won't change over time. This is just to say that initially, it's better to take the time and put in the effort and emotional maturity required to shop around a bit before committing to combining wavelengths in a long term relationship.

I know that these people on my Mantris are real people, but that doesn't mean I should feel responsible for their feelings or their actions or what they wish I would wish for, too. I'm glad to feel responsible to my own feelings and the Four Man Plan ruleset that makes a LOT of sense to me, and allows me to say no to what I don't want, by saying yes to other things instead, and not feeling guilty about it!